a guest15.06.17 14:23

how to return the relationship with her husband

Married 32 years. In 2008, the husband left the family. Almost a year lived with another woman. At the same time, we did not stop communicating and talked all year round and went everywhere together. Then he came back and we lived a wonderful nine years in love and harmony. This year in March, my husband quarreled with me. Then it turned out that he has a mistress. Now he has lost all interest in me. He says that I don't interest him as a woman. And considered options for a rented room. What kind of relationship now with his mistress do not know. The husband is spending the night at home, but at this stage I am a stranger to him. How to be. I love him very much and I want to live on with him. I never reproached him. I believed him. My husband's name is Nikolai, I am Svetlana. Help to understand yourself, find mistakes and return the relationship.

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Hello Svetlana! Thank you for your question. I am very sorry that your husband has a mistress. I want to say that you do not blame yourself in any way. If people have problems in a relationship, they try to solve them, and not seek "comfort" on the side.Only you decide whether you want to return your relationship, whether Nikolai deserves your trust. Can you believe him further, even if now you manage to get him back. If you still want to return it, you need to start by changing yourself. To be a desired woman, you must put your needs first, pay attention to yourself, develop, be an interesting person. Read books, attend trainings, meet friends, enjoy life. A sad, suffering woman is not needed by anyone. Start enjoying life, shift the focus of attention from your husband to your personal interests. He will notice your changes and show interest to you. And even if he chooses his mistress, a joyful, interesting, young 32-year-old woman will surely attract a lot of admirers into her life. You will not be up to it.

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Hello Svetlana! Thank you for your question. I am very sorry that your husband has a mistress. I want to say that you do not blame yourself in any way. If people have problems in a relationship, they try to solve them, and not seek "comfort" on the side.Only you decide whether you want to return your relationship, whether Nikolai deserves your trust. Can you believe him further, even if now you manage to get him back. If you still want to return it, you need to start by changing yourself. To be a desired woman, you must put your needs first, pay attention to yourself, develop, be an interesting person. Read books, attend trainings, meet friends, enjoy life. A sad, suffering woman is not needed by anyone. Start enjoying life, shift the focus of attention from your husband to your personal interests. He will notice your changes and show interest to you. And even if he chooses his mistress, a joyful, interesting, young 32-year-old woman will surely attract a lot of admirers into her life. You will not be up to it.

a guest22.08.17 18:24

Not her 32 years old, and she was married 32 years old, ie, she is about 52. Of course she is worried that fear will remain at the old one. Yes, it is ideal to do, except that she used to be a family man, husband. How it changed its priorities to put yourself in the place 1, and 2 and 3, to throw him off the pedestal at all?

It is difficult to judge the root of the problem.Perhaps the husband is bored in the relationship, because his wife does not carry him away and does not involve him in any actions. A woman should constantly occupy a man with some things, for example, today we make repairs, then we go on a trip, upon return we are building a cottage or a tree house. A man should be in business so that he will not have time to be bored, that he would be interested in relationships. You ask why men do not entertain us? Unfortunately, they perform many other functions, they are not located to fabrications and surprises. Men flesh linearly. Thus we complement each other.

Of course, every self-respecting woman should not dissolve either in a man or in children. We must go about our business, let it be gardening or drive a dog to the exhibition and training, but the woman must have their own activities and interests. If you are immersed in life, start small. This week, sign up for a manicure, the next - a massage, and then - a beautician. And do not say that there is no extra money. Nowadays it can be done for a penny. Every second girlfriend already knows how to put Shellac. So less excuses, more action! Everything will work out!

a guest03.11.17 17:39

Of course, you are not an expert .. you didn’t even catch that she’s not 32 but 52 most likely .. everyone is bored with marriage .. both men and women .. there comes a moment of devastation. One still loves the second one .. and as a rule this is a man .. you can walk the wheel .. lose weight .. change .. read the news of sports, it will not interest him. By the fact that in fact he knows you up and down .. as life shows .. and I, too, is no longer a girl .. normal relations in marriage end by 7-8 a maximum of 10 years .. and men run .. then everything is there sometimes ends even earlier. 2–3 years .. if the first marriage was good ... then in the second they are looking for what was in the first .. but the young girl pulls the blanket over herself as a rule .. and the man gets tired there .. the first wife usually serves .. she prepares cooks, cleans, wipes .. second, wait .. that he is older then he owes her ... if she isn’t hungry alone .. so difficult everything .. and Nikolai .. just ate sex .. and because his wife did not leave him, he was in the middle of all the time .. he compared the first and second .. and that means he did not have the opportunity to penetrate and become attached to all 100 to the second. .in what is the merit of the first wife proper .. she let him go at all, he would be sure that there was no choice .. he would have the second .. men like thatthey are not motivated by love as we are .. but initially they have sex with a young body .. then, where he is comfortable .. comfortably, he is not there .. he is looking for another place .. there is nowhere to run to stay .. mean creatures .. of course .. for we are all traitors .. it is inevitable unfortunately .. change even the most beautiful .. interesting interesting, etc.

a guest03.11.17 19:18

But I see you are an expert in the humiliation of men. Not all men are alike. First, the mother raises a son, then the woman should instill in a man the importance of relationships and family. If a man to serve and be only a servant, then who would be interested in this? A woman should be a person, regardless of whether she works or not and how many children she has. A woman should show interest in a man, talk to him, be interested in his success, not offend, not condemn, consider him, ask his opinion, I can continue this list indefinitely. If you were the perfect wife for your man, and he cheated on you, he really *******! Why did you marry a bastard out ??? Everyone knows that men do not change. What they took initially, tested, then you will get it for life. An adequate man will not trade his ideal life with his clever-beautiful wife for a “young body”, which stopped playing with dolls yesterday.

I am very sorry that you had a bad experience.But, believe me, in my practice there are beautiful couples every day. And you deserve to have a happy family with your husband, who will be faithful to you.

a guest29.06.17 15:33

There is a saying: be wise - give a second chance, don't be a fool - never give a third. Therefore, engage saboy, become interesting to yourself first of all. As soon as you change, the husband will not be needed so much. And he, unfortunately, will decide to return.

a guest29.06.17 15:34

Yeah, stopudovo come running! If the mistress quickly get bored, of course. The main thing is not to open the door on the first "I love, I'm sorry, I was a fool." give yourself and him time to evaluate - do you both really want to return the relationship

And my article one article helped put everything in its place. (Deleted by moderator) After parting, I am again happy in marriage. Two loving halves must be near, but someone experienced in such delicate questions should help them.

Once, one man told me that there was not a single man who would never cheat on his wife. "This is in our blood!" That is, in fact, almost all men are gazes!

But there are those who carefully hide it. Not because they love their half, not because it is more interesting for them to live.If, of course, a woman suspects, life turns into hell. Constant monitoring, checking the phone and stuff ... horror. Fu There is a cinema "Ideal Strangers" I strongly advise you to watch, just on this topic. About this movie read by chance on the sitestoria.meI watched a cool movie .. right about life.

a guest26.12.17 18:46

Um ...... watch out for words.

"That is, in fact, almost all men are gazes! ..."

Your words can be criticized in every way.

And all the women / girls are clean "? Show the verified" statistics of changes "(apparently, you have it.), On the basis of what you insult here m. Item?

In response, to the words of your friend.

On their own people are not judged.

a guest02.04.18 12:46

I did not change what? We have been living for 7 years. No need to take the words of one man, as a dogma.

Do you have complexes? Maybe it's in appearance? After all, every man needs to be interested in sexually.

a guest03.11.17 19:20

Yes, it happens that a man can not imagine that his sexual fantasies can be translated into reality with his wife. It is necessary to discuss and make concessions to each other.

a guest26.03.18 13:15

Svetlana, I had the same situation! I am 42, and my husband has completely lost interest in me after 15 years of living together.I chose the most beautiful and successful man and always fought with rivals, for 40 years I was blown away and just started to get hysterical, still ashamed of it. And you know what helped me?) Meeting with one amazing woman) Surely you know her, this is Zhanna Belozerova, I am extremely happy that I met her. She taught me takooma;)) Husband delighted! Life is like in paradise, he brings me candy every day if only I gave him a gift;) Thanks to Jeanne) Recently, he got a promotion at work, started earning more and in general everything worked out, presented a ring with a diamond) )

the question is whether to return them.



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